Best wishes & God bless you! Yes, I know it's weird.) Thanks so much Jamie for the awesome blueprint. I highly recommend this book.”, -- Dave Campbell,Certified Windbridge Research Medium (WCRM). Were both attending college in AZ right now but I'll be done in December and he'll be done in two years. It’s a free country. I think this is actually a very practical matter and nothing more. If you call yourself a Christian it means you believe the bible, not just the parts that are convenient or what you personally agree with. I actually understand what God expects from me. Placeholders.enable(); I’m sorry that you have had your share of run-ins with religious zealots, but perhaps you may be taking things a little too personally. They are lucky to have left you lol faith is very important regarding a relationship and the foundations of it. Are you done with “Netflix and chill?”

Anyone can be religious as he believes on his faith, he believes on God. Since reading Love Never Dies (which describes the dialogue process in great detail) I’ve used Turndorf’s technique and it has opened life-changing doors for me. For me, it is an easy choice; and whomever God blesses me with in terms of a husband, then he’ll feel the same way if he’s truly sent to me by God Himself. But I said although that’s admirable, I’d rather take that money and pay off our mortgage or save it for the kid’s college funds. It is about love, not about rules. However, he thinks he's perfect and there's nothing wrong about him whatsoever. We just want… My boyfriend is Christian and 100% sure he does not want to convert. My guess is, the guy is not lying. Wow Stephanie I couldn’t have put it better myself. Try to learn something about your partner's faith or lack of. No man can do what Jesus has done for me. This relationship isn't a collaboration between two equal partners. Why Would a Person Choose Religion Over Me? A spiritual person is one who exercise his faith–that means— living what he has believed. ... My boyfriend wants me to be the one to tell him what I want sexually. I am amazed how many people here go to church and never read the Bible…. Pilipinas, Shamcey Supsup. Of course you aren’t one of those, right? Well, I use to emphasize, it’s more than stories. “If I had to change my religious beliefs, I would not marry the person that I love because the first person I love is God, who created me. And if she simply multiplied the odds of those two deal-breakers (2% of the population is Jewish; .1% might be considered male animal activists), she’s essentially declaring that only .002% of the population is even DATEABLE. Dating Coach – Evan Marc Katz | Understand Men. If following your religion blindly makes you feel whole and happy then that is absolutely wonderful for you, but don’t dare judge someone else for believing in a way that feels right for them. Or did he pick and choose the parts he believed in? I have a question for you, i don't know maybe if you can answer this question or not but I'll give it a shot-I have been with my boyfriend for approximately 1 year and 8 months.He is Christian and I am Roman Catholic. ", -- Garnet Schulhauser,author of Dancing on a Stamp and Dancing Forever with Spirit, "This well-researched book offers a thorough, step-by-step program that provides tools for couples to heal even the most troubled relationships. When I opened up to that relationship and began the daily practice of reading the Bible, Devotionals, prayer, giving thanks, meditating on His word, my life and my heart changed. You have a religion and have never felt the need to change it, so who is he kidding? Forget about the whole realm of spirituality, because no one is on the same path really, any more than they’re on the same path of personal growth. Christ in our lives changes us gradually (for the better) and someone who is not walking that path may not be able to support or understand. The truth is, we’ll never know people’s motivations for acting. And since you’re never going to get into her head, why drive yourself nuts about it? . He is trying to take you over. Explaining that I am a human being, a great person, give back to the needy, a highly & moral young woman and I don’t see why our religious differences & views is going to just end our relationship. I have friends with very different beliefs and I respect them all; but when it comes to the man that I will share my life with and raise my family our faith has to be in agreement. He says he can't live with me being an Atheist because it makes him feel uncomfortable. He says I can ask him to do anything and he will be my boy toy. People want what they want. So it’s like, “God or that special someone?” It is also, “Love means obedience of the heart.” As simply as that, I think. I wasn’t really raised religious and don’t have any religious feelings for the most part. Sign up for Dr. Turndorf's newsletter and discover how to avoid the 3 massive mistakes that will keep you grieving forever. My boyfriend and I, for example, have talked about whether or not I will work when we have kids. It really doesn’t matter. What To Do If You Want To Find Love. I had almost a similar experience few days ago when a guy I had feelings for told me that for him to be with me in any relationship or matrimonial commitment ,I had to be “a true follower of our religion” (mind you we are the same religion),he added to claim that my ways of worship were not proper for him as we were raised differently, and it hit me that.. That does not make him inferior to someone who follows blindly. There's not one guy out there that is worth me changing my religion because it's that important to me. Thank you JaguarRose!!! So much of him and his devotion. Your boyfriend is spiritual, though. My boyfriend said quite early on that he’s comfortable with me drinking and wouldn’t want me to change any aspects of my life just to fit his (what a babe) which is of course mega important for any relationship. The primary goal of marriage is children, and helping your partner reach heaven. Thank you for leading me in the right direction, giving me the confidence to believe in myself and helping me find the love I deserve. He knows I'm an Atheist. You also need to study if these sudden demands are a smoke screen for a deeper issue: that he is afraid to tie the knot with you. My boyfriend abandoned me when he found out I am pregnant; ... I’m an atheist and my partner wants me to convert to the Muslim religion. Pray for them and God will make the decision if this person needs to be out your life. To the die-hard Religious Folk.. I’ve been on all sides of this issue. “Why didn’t she call me back?” wonders a guy after a first date.
I know not everyone will understand my point and i do not mean to tackle more about this as many might war me on this. Not only is this the problem but now he says my religion is a problem for him. Just curious Evan. Which is why I yoke up exclusively with cute, funny, smart Jewish guys. It has worked for us for almost 10 years. Someone I used to be with is Catholic and recently discovered that he wants to pursue his faith more seriously. Dating a non-Catholic (or non-Christian, even) taught this man how important his faith was to him. The Bible says don't be in relationships with non-believers because it can damage your faith. Compromise is key. (Part II). 9. What about that part when a wife’s/ husband’s love saves her/his spouse? Listen To This. If they respect you and ask for the same back would it not be easy for the believer to get his or her way with the subject of kids because I sure wont have a problem with my kids to be Christ-like or guided by any other religion and i am a believer of God just not so good with religions because of the blindly believers that will look down on you for questioning or just not believing everything just because you have too, who are you to say who goes to Heaven I thought only he would be on the day of your judgement. If anyone could possibly put themselves in our shoes for once (I am forever thinking of how this looks to everyone else), then you will see how frankly terrifying that is. It sucks for me.
  • If there were feedback forms on every date, it would be useful, but we’re never gonna really know why others do what they do. If he wants to be a Catholic father to Catholic children you cannot expect him to be comfortable with a non-Catholic wife. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. She then asked “what does that mean.” When I said that its meant that I believed we would be together, nothing had changed. Oh, and Christians divorce at a higher rate than atheists, so evidently your “foundation” isn’t any stronger than mine. I’m pretty sure on that point because if that isn’t true, you have a serious problem with memory, comprehension, or both, and those are usually individual issues, not the kind of mass epidemic one sees here. The only one to judge or make that decision is God.
    People learn about themselves as they date. Have you ever dated someone who was really religious and he/she chose religion over you? So I do think that a lot is going to depend on how much religion is part of the person’s life, and also whether they can sit down and work out the details of such a relationship. Let him go. However, I’ve retained a lot of what is referred to as “Catholic social teaching” and it means more than “tithing”. Walk away. It's only been 106 days, Evan, but they have been the BEST 106 days of my life! This man is slowly trying to take you over. So, marrying a wife that is from a different religion or of no religion will lead to an unhappy life. We were on again off again for a while. And leaving them for it, too? You really are. This way he'll know that he actually make the right decision. He is also asking you to place your own education and self-development behind his own. I do not mean to be funny, but seriously, wouldnt you rather know this now that move forward and wind up resenting him and perhaps even divorcing him????? He says I won’t be able to support his decisions and/or I’ll resent him. We don’t agree on anything spiritual, so we don’t even discuss it. If Catholicism has become a big part of his identity, you can’t expect him to go out with someone who isn’t a Catholic. Religion absolutely matters — if you make it matter. But, there really comes a time when you need to give up something when you choose to live spiritually. It also says to “choose whom this day you will serve…God or man.” Man doesn’t have a heaven or hell to put you in–only God does. I would so much appreciate some input. Your fan. I have received a promise ring and once all the stuff with the family gets smoothed out, we plan to get engaged. I went from being unsure and inexperienced to having a great boyfriend who adores me and treats me really well and is now actively thinking and talking about marriage and kids. We dated for 1 … Ok….. if that’s how you feel. Christian indeed. Your email address will not be published. This book tells the heartfelt story of the author’s tragic loss of her husband and his subsequent messages to her from beyond the veil, and it outlines the steps we should take to communicate with the spirits of the people we loved on Earth.
    • This website uses cookies to improve your experience. He came to save the world & not to condemn it. And of what happened to Miriam when she talked like you do…Doesn’t that scare you? If fear isn't driving his demands, then we are dealing with a man who thinks he can take you over. He had to stop giving into to me and get right with God and told me I deserved a loving caring man that would love me for me. When you have shifted and you mean business, then you can tell him that he needs a major attitude adjustment. We were engaged last September and it seemed like we were both already considering our lives together ahead. And yet we wonder why finding someone is so difficult. I understand what the guy is saying because being altruistic is very important to me. Just as an aside, if you want to make an impression on the rest of us, why don’t you, and especially the institutional church which you have in effect turned into your “god”, try actually living by what’s in your own book. You took a simple message of love and hope for humanity, something I believe was intended as a message for individuals, not a basis for an institution, and warped, twisted, folded, spindled, and mutilated that spiritual gift; turned it to an excuse for all manner of bigotry, and hatred, and callous disregard for the very human souls you say you would save. The thing is, I’m not of any religion, but I’m pretty open-minded. In my situation I was in a 2 year relationship with a woman ( iam too ) and after some time I started to feel conviction. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website. I personally was raised by a religious house hold with good followers of our religion and strong faith…however during my infantry until present my parents never taught me to hate,classify,or pick out people..at least not for their religious believes, I grew up believing in God and lived each day serving,and seeing his presence in my life through good deeds and other people,I cannot say I am a true Godly follower or a saint but I do believe in humanity and I do believe it is what God would want me to believe in. If you really believe in being Jewish and raising a Jewish family then there are enough ways for you to meet other Jewish people. This category only includes cookies that ensures basic functionalities and security features of my boyfriend wants me to change my religion ways. Just look at your own faith and realize you love this person should have re-evaluated before making an decision... Courage in my mind once said ” never mind what a man says he ca n't live with me ’. 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